Now I know what you’re thinking. If the mint chip ice cream is THAT good, why even bother with the other 30 flavors? But variety is the spice of life, and no matter how scrumptious that scoop is, if you’re having it every day for months and months, it’s going to lose a bit of its luster. Translation: Either you or your guy will get bored.
Here's the good news: You don’t have to sacrifice your orgasm to try new things! By adding little variations to your favorite moves, and bringing in a few fun props, you can expand your sexual repertoire and still hold on to the thing you crave most (the big O).
If You Love Missionary...
Missionary is a sexual staple for a reason: It delivers results! It’s intimate, allowing you to gaze deep into your lover’s eyes as you reach the finish line. The positioning and motion often stimulates your clitoris, which is what brings the majority of women to climax.
Make it hotter: Start off in regular missionary position, then have your partner on his knees with your legs resting on his shoulders. Keeping your legs squeezed together creates a tighter feel for the both of you and enables you more hip movement so your partner can hit new angles, and hopefully your G-spot. Have him try an up-and-down motion rather than an in-and-out to maximize stimulation! This also is a great position if you want to bring a sex toy into the mix. Try a clitoral vibe like the Je Joue Mimi, which fits discreetly and quietly in the palm of your hand.
Missionary is a sexual staple for a reason: It delivers results! It’s intimate, allowing you to gaze deep into your lover’s eyes as you reach the finish line. The positioning and motion often stimulates your clitoris, which is what brings the majority of women to climax.
Make it hotter: Start off in regular missionary position, then have your partner on his knees with your legs resting on his shoulders. Keeping your legs squeezed together creates a tighter feel for the both of you and enables you more hip movement so your partner can hit new angles, and hopefully your G-spot. Have him try an up-and-down motion rather than an in-and-out to maximize stimulation! This also is a great position if you want to bring a sex toy into the mix. Try a clitoral vibe like the Je Joue Mimi, which fits discreetly and quietly in the palm of your hand.
If You Love Girl-on-Top...
This position is by far the most common position for women to orgasm in for a few reasons. It allows you to control depth and speed of motion, and it gives you direct clitoral contact for some great grinding. And trust me, he LOVES the view.
This position is by far the most common position for women to orgasm in for a few reasons. It allows you to control depth and speed of motion, and it gives you direct clitoral contact for some great grinding. And trust me, he LOVES the view.
Make it hotter: Sit your man down in a chair or off the side of the bed and climb on. This rendition of your old favorite still packs a clitoral punch and also proves an optimal angle for some G-spot stimulation.
If You Love Doggie Style...
Doggie style is one of those positions that just feels naughty! It provides your man with a fantastic view of your backside and allows for extra deep penetration (a.k.a. G-spot stimulation) to help take you over the edge.
Doggie style is one of those positions that just feels naughty! It provides your man with a fantastic view of your backside and allows for extra deep penetration (a.k.a. G-spot stimulation) to help take you over the edge.
Make it hotter: Take this out of the bed for a fun yet familiar twist. Stand up and bend forward slightly, placing your hands against furniture or a wall for support and let your man enter you from behind. This frees up his hands for some manual clitoral play.
Emily Morse is a sexologist, host of the Sex With Emily podcast, and cofounder of Emily & Tony. She has a doctorate in human sexuality and is the author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight and a weekly cohost of the nationally syndicated radio show Loveline With Dr. Drew Pinsky.
