According to this research in the journal Sexologies, fantasizing during sex helped women orgasm more regularly.
Women were divided into two groups—those who did fantasize during sex and those who didn't. Both groups reported equal amounts of erotic thoughts while masturbating, but the women who thought about sexy things during intercourse were more likely to orgasm than those who didn't.
We all know that worrying about your to-do list isn’t exactly "fantasizing," try some of these tips if your thoughts tend to wander mid-action:
Tune in to your body: When you’re zoning out, make yourself pay attention to exactly what’s going on physically. Focus on the details, like how he’s touching you, whether your breathing’s in sync, or what the action feels like. Concentrating on the particulars will help keep you in the moment.
Talk dirty:Since “What did you say?” is the least sexy response to dirty talk that ever existed, shut out any distracting thoughts and focus on giving him a proper response instead. Not only will that help you stay present, it’ll also turn you on more. Win-win!
Give directions: If you can’t get into it, maybe whatever is going on just isn’t doing it for you. Instead of going along with it, tell your guy exactly what you want in no uncertain terms. He's probably dying for you to clue him into what you like, we promise.
Do you have another no-fail way to orgasm during sex? Let's hear it.
